What is perfectionism really about?
At first glance, perfectionism might look like motivation—but it often hides emotional pain. For many expats and high achievers, it becomes a way to avoid failure, judgment, or rejection.
Why address perfectionism in psychotherapy?
Because it deeply affects mental health, relationships, and self-esteem. At Therapsy, we offer psychotherapy for perfectionism with multilingual therapists across Italy—online and in-person—to help you overcome perfectionism’s emotional roots.
What Is Perfectionism?
Is perfectionism just having high standards?
No. True perfectionism is driven by fear and self-criticism, not just ambition. It includes inflexible expectations and a tendency to feel never “good enough.”
What are the types of perfectionism?
Self-oriented: High pressure on yourself
Socially prescribed: Belief others demand perfection
Other-oriented: Expecting perfection from others
Each is linked to anxiety and emotional exhaustion.
How Does Perfectionism Develop?
How do early experiences influence perfectionism?
When children learn that love depends on success or behavior, they internalize the idea that they must be perfect to be accepted.
How do culture and media reinforce it?
Society, family, and social media all fuel perfectionistic pressure—especially in achievement-driven environments or during life transitions like moving abroad.
What Triggers Unrealistic Expectations?
What causes perfectionism to resurface?
Stressful situations like deadlines, comparisons, or relationship conflicts often reactivate perfectionist thinking and inner pressure.
How does it affect daily life and relationships?
You may fear being disliked or judged, avoid vulnerability, or overextend yourself to meet impossible emotional or professional standards.
The Inner Critic: How It Works
What does perfectionism’s inner voice say?
“You’ll fail.” “You’re not enough.” “If you don’t do it perfectly, don’t do it at all.” These thoughts stem from past criticism and are often internalized early in life.
Why is it so hard to silence this voice?
It operates automatically, driven by shame or fear. But therapy can help you identify and challenge it—turning judgment into compassion.
How Therapy Helps
Which therapy methods work best?
CBT helps shift distorted thoughts
Psychodynamic therapy uncovers past emotional roots
Mindfulness & compassion-focused therapy foster resilience and self-acceptance
Can therapy reduce burnout and anxiety?
Yes. Therapy helps you balance ambition with rest, reduce anxiety, and create realistic expectations. You learn tools to manage the pressure without self-punishment.
Embracing the “Good Enough” Mindset
Is “good enough” giving up?
Not at all. It’s choosing peace over perfection. You still strive for growth—but without the burden of constant self-judgment.
How do I practice being “good enough”?
Take small steps
Celebrate effort, not just results
Speak to yourself with kindness
Therapy helps reinforce these changes until they become natural.
Where to Begin
How do I know if I need help?
If you constantly feel inadequate, fear mistakes, or push yourself to the point of exhaustion, therapy may offer the support and clarity you need.
How does Therapsy support this healing?
Our multilingual team offers personalized care—online and in person—to help you explore and heal perfectionism at the root.
Conclusion
Perfectionism in psychotherapy is not about lowering your standards—it’s about freeing yourself from emotional pressure and embracing a healthier mindset.
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Final Thoughts
Perfectionism may have once served as a shield—protecting you from criticism, disappointment, or feeling unworthy—but over time, it becomes a heavy weight. Through psychotherapy for perfectionism, it’s possible to gently let go of these unrealistic standards and reconnect with a more compassionate, grounded version of yourself. Whether you’re navigating a demanding career, adjusting to a new culture, or feeling stuck in cycles of self-criticism, you’re not alone. At Therapsy, we believe that healing begins with understanding—and we’re here to support you every step of the way.
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